It appears that Brittany Maynard did take her life. Repeatedly she said it was to maintain her dignity. I ask you what is dignity? What is so important to you that if it were taken away you would rather die? Then I ask, why would you place a THING above the gift of life?
I’ll pull no punches here. Dying hurts. I am in pain often. Sleep and I are no longer friends whether it’s from pain, nausea, or an inner sense of need to finish things. My disease makes me so weak I cry at times. It hurts to not be what I once was.
Earlier last month when I heard about Brittany Maynard for the first time and ‘death with dignity’ I wrote a post, Choosing Dignity When Dying. I realize now that I was right to wait on God’s timing but I was wrong to call it dignity.
Dignity is an idol that we are all choking ourselves with because it gives the appearance of power and self-control. I said I wanted to die with dignity and instead I think it better to say I want to die with faith.
Dignity is portrayed as…
CONTROL- Give up the pretense now you never had control. Sure there have been times in your life that you were an adult fully capable of making your own decisions and choices but there are and will always be something bigger than you. Whether that is the law, your wife, your ambition, or God. Perhaps it’s not onerous because you feel the outcome out-weighs the regulations, the control, on your life and worth it. Then you hit a place where you realize you are out of control and suddenly your world tilts because you don’t have the power to right it again.
One of the main reasons people choose assisted suicide is, “to maintain some aspect of control in their lives” said Eighmey a board member for the Death With Dignity National Centre. (from Yahoo News)
PHYSICAL- If drawing the line in the sand is whether or not you have to wear bladder control or diapers any mom that had a baby that thought their bladder was a soccer ball is in deep trouble come their 40’s. Or are we talking about having a nurse out to your house to take your blood pressure, check your legs for swelling, and injuries. 2x a week a hospice nurse has come out to my home for several months now. Before that several years of nurses calling on my house weekly has been common. I’m not super comfortable with it but we all make do and I use my hospice team to try to stay as healthy as possible for as long as possible.
There are worse thing, seizures, eating through a tube in your chest, strokes, cancer, and so much more.
I endure all because I fight for my gift of life the Lord has blessed me with. There are others out there that are doing much more than I because they too grasp onto life and want to live every last second despite the physical problems that come. First person to come to mind is Joni Eareckson Tada.
EMOTIONAL- When you are told you are going to die you get down. Depressed. This is not what anyone of any age wants to hear. Slowly as you work through those emotions and the diagnosis you seek out others. Second opinions and wisdom from those further down the path and a new light dawns. It will never be the same even if you beat the odds and live for years. You will always know what it’s like to face a mountain that is not possible to climb. An end to which there is no return. Emotions can and will get you into trouble. Use your intellect. Use the wisdom and discernment of those around you. Use your faith to guide you through.
LACK OF FEAR- The assumption that because you are choosing the time and place means there is no fear is silly. Fear entered your heart and has bound you in it’s tight grip from the moment you heard your diagnosis. Fear is never a good guide and yet I see it in so many people’s eyes today. I pray the Lord lets me scrub that fear out of at least one person’s eyes before I pass. Do NOT let FEAR and with its twin EMOTION grab you and drag you into decisions and a place that is beyond the pale.
Dear Brittany I am sorry you have gone. My heart aches for the family you leave behind. My tears now are for the next person sitting alone staring at a set of pills their doctor prescribed thinking about taking them. PLEASE DON’T.
Stay with me and rest in faith my friend.
Faith that Jesus is waiting.
Faith that my children will remember me and be well cared for by my husband that adores them.
Faith that my husband will carry on with the loving help of family and friends.
Faith in Christ and Christ Alone
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